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Entries from September 2008

Uncertain Times

September 17, 2008 · Leave a Comment

“I bend but do not break”

– Poet Jean de la Fontaine

 

I don’t know about you but this week feels like it has a black cloud over it. It all started when we had to put our 6 month old puppy in the hospital for pneumonia this weekend (she is now at home recovering well), then I watched the stock market hit major turbulence and on top of it all is the stress of not knowing which direction our country will take in less than 2 months. Things feel really “hard” right now in our country. As I have been digesting all of this, I have realized that I can either sit back and complain and hope that something changes or I can be proactive and do something to make a difference.

 

This is where I have come up with the decision to launch a “Mastermind Series” where I will be facilitating conversations with all of you and/or inspirational leaders in different industries. My passion for putting this together is that I believe that great things happen when we put minds together. I also believe in the importance of being really clear and focused on what we want. If you are floating around without knowing your final destination, then that is exactly where you will end up, nowhere in particular. In this series, we will hear the stories of how people got to where they are, find out what tools we need to be successful and bounce ideas off of each other to walk away feeling inspired by what is possible. I want the series to be intellectually stimulating, engaging and relevant.

 

 

MASTERMIND SERIES

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FIRST EVENT

Survival of the Fittest – How to Thrive in Turmoil

While the economy is in a downward tailspin, it is easy to turn to fear for the future. In this series, we will discuss how to take control over your situation and take action not only to survive but to thrive. Out of this series you will:  

 

a)    Receive tools to remain flexible, nimble and powerful in uncertain times

b)    Change  your perception to maximize your success

c)    Discover and leverage your strengths

More details on the speaker and date of this event coming soon. If you or someone you know would be a great speaker in the future for this series (each event will have a different topic), please send me an email.

 

p.s. I am still accepting a limited number of new coaching clients this month. If you are interested in becoming a client and taking your life or your business to the next level, email me to discuss how we could work together.

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Confusion on US Politics

September 12, 2008 · Leave a Comment

I received this in an email forward today and thought it was brilliant:

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I’m a little confused. Let me see if I have this straight…..

* If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you’re “exotic, different.”

* Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers,  a quintessential American story.

* If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.

* Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

* Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.

* Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well grounded.

* If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12 years as a Constitutional Law professor,  spend 8 years as a State Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people, become chairman of the state Senate’s Health and Human Services committee, spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a

state of  13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and Veteran’s Affairs committees, you don’t have any real leadership experience.

* If your total resume is: local weather girl,  4 years on the city council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000 people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000 people, then you’re qualified to become the country’s second highest ranking executive.

* If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches, you’re not a real Christian.

* If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re a Christian.

* If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education, including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the fiber of society.

* If , while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with no other option in sex education in your state’s school system while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant , you’re very responsible.

* If your wife is a Harvard graduate laywer who gave up a position in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family’s values don’t represent America’s.

* If you’re husband is nicknamed “First Dude”,  with at least one DWI conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely admirable.

OK, much clearer now.

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Inspiration Through Charity

September 11, 2008 · Leave a Comment

On a day like today, September 11th, when thoughts turn to that horrible day of such hate and anger, I’d love to turn my thoughts and attention to the good that is being done in the world. There are so many of us that want to help and want to make a difference in the world but we don’t know where to turn or what to do. Well, last week I met an incredibly inspiring woman named Margaret Trost. She literally brought me to tears with her story and the impact that she has made in this world. After losing her husband to an untimely death, she went on to heal her broken heart through service. It was on this journey that she discovered the dire needs of children in Haiti. When she visited Haiti and asked what she could do to help, she was told that if she could raise money to feed the children ONE meal per WEEK, that would be incredible. Not only did she succeed in doing that but she has developed a program that provides funding for 5,000 meals a week to Haiti’s children, offers educational scholarships, and supports a summer camp in Port-au-Prince. 

She has written recently written a book about this remarkable journey called On That Day, Everybody Ate. I highly recommend that you read it.  http://www.onthatdayeverybodyate.org/

Margaret will be hosting a reading of this book and talking more about her experience and what we can do to help on Tuesday, September 16th 2008 at 7:00pm at Books Inc in Laurel Village, 3515 California Street San Francisco, CA. I will definitely be there to hear her speak and would love for you all to join me.

To learn more about Margaret and her organization, click here: http://whatiffoundation.org/

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Procrastination

September 10, 2008 · Leave a Comment

Every morning I write a to-do list with everything that I would like to accomplish for the day. It is always so gratifying for me to see a list with things checked off at the end of the day. But there are a few things on the list that are on there everyday and never get checked off. They are the things that I know have to get done but for one reason or another, I procrastinate on them. Usually it is because those tasks are complicated and do not entail just doing one thing to check it off.

But even more than that, I think that there is something to learn in what we choose to procrastinate on. For example, let’s say that one of the items is to call an old friend. What is holding you back about calling that friend? Has your friendship changed and you aren’t ready to face it? Or maybe the task is writing your resume. While the task can often be tedious, usually there is something else beneath that. Perhaps there is fear of not getting hired where you want. Usually we mask these tasks that we procrastinate on by saying things like, “I’m just lazy.” or “I’m just really busy.” But the truth of the matter is, there is usually some other reason why we aren’t checking those things off of the list.

What’s yours?

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50 “Impossible” Goals

September 5, 2008 · 4 Comments

As promised in my newsletter, please see below for my 50 “impossible” goals. I would love to hear your list so please add a comment to this post with your goals!

  1. Skydive
  2. Have dinner at the White House
  3. Be an advisor to President Barack Obama
  4. Be invited to Necker Island by Sir Richard Branson
  5. Appear as a reoccuring “expert” guest on Oprah
  6. Tango in Argentina
  7. Win a ballroom dance competition (currenly have no idea how to ballroom dance)
  8. Become a yoga teacher
  9. Visit an ashram in India
  10. Own a home in Sardegna, Italy
  11. Have a latin guitarist play at my house every night before dinner for my family
  12. Start a foundation
  13. Live to see the cure of cancer
  14. Write a bestselling book
  15. Get published in a magazine
  16. Be the keynote speaker at an event
  17. Have my photographs published
  18. Be in a movie
  19. Visit the Shire in New Zealand
  20. Go to the Seychelles
  21. Have a loggia in my backyard
  22. Speak Italian fluently
  23. Speak French fluently
  24. Learn sign language
  25. Drive across the United States
  26. Learn to play the guitar
  27. See the Northern Lights
  28. Go to all 50 states
  29. Meet the Dalai Lama
  30. Witness a miracle
  31. Learn to play the piano
  32. Sell a painting of mine
  33. Plant a secret garden
  34. Read War & Peace
  35. Appear on Charlie Rose show
  36. Go on a Safari in Africa
  37. Visit Grand Canyon
  38. Visit Niagra Falls
  39. Win the lottery
  40. Get a luxury suite comped in Vegas
  41. Solve a mystery
  42. Visit where my ancestors lived in Lebanon, Ireland and Czechloslovakia
  43. Understand ins and outs of all world religions
  44. Broker a peace deal between Israel and Palestine
  45. Finish a triathalon
  46. Knit a sweater
  47. Dance on stage next to Bruce Springsteen
  48. Be a speaker at the Allen & Company Sun Valley Conference
  49. Live to see all of my grandchildren get married
  50. Sit on a porch holding hands and drinking lemonade with Peter when we are 90 years old

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Thoughts on Sarah Palin from someone who has known her since 1992

September 5, 2008 · 2 Comments

Anne is from Wasilla, Alaska.

This was found on the Washington Post comment board and have posted it exactly as I found it.

 

Amazing Letter From a Local Wasillian Who Knows Sarah Palin Well.

From: http://www.washingtonindependent.com/3671/the-reform-candidate
Submitted by Michael Wrightson on Sept 1, 2008

A note to all by {the Author}

Dear friends,

So many people have asked me about what I know about Sarah Palin in the
last 2 days that I decided to write something up . . .

Basically, Sarah Palin and Hillary Clinton have only 2 things in
common: their gender and their good looks. :)

You have my permission to forward this to your friends/email contacts
with my name and email address attached, but please do not post it on
any websites, as there are too many kooks out there . . .

Thanks,
Anne

ABOUT SARAH PALIN

I am a resident of Wasilla, Alaska. I have known Sarah since 1992.
Everyone here knows Sarah, so it is nothing special to say we are on a
first-name basis. Our children have attended the same schools. Her
father was my child’s favorite substitute teacher. I also am on a
first name basis with her parents and mother-in-law. I attended more
City Council meetings during her administration than about 99% of the
residents of the city.

She is enormously popular; in every way she’s like the most popular
girl in middle school. Even men who think she is a poor choice and
won’t vote for her can’t quit smiling when talking about her because
she is a “babe”.

It is astonishing and almost scary how well she can keep a secret. She
kept her most recent pregnancy a secret from her children and parents
for seven months.

She is “pro-life”. She recently gave birth to a Down’s syndrome baby.
There is no cover-up involved, here; Trig is her baby.

She is energetic and hardworking. She regularly worked out at the gym.

She is savvy. She doesn’t take positions; she just “puts things out
there” and if they prove to be popular, then she takes credit.

Her husband works a union job on the North Slope for BP and is a
champion snowmobile racer. Todd Palin’s kind of job is highly
sought-after because of the schedule and high pay. He arranges his
work schedule so he can fish for salmon in Bristol Bay for a month or
so in summer, but by no stretch of the imagination is fishing their
major source of income. Nor has her life-style ever been anything
like that of native Alaskans.

Sarah and her whole family are avid hunters.

She’s smart.

Her experience is as mayor of a city with a population of about 5,000
(at the time), and less than 2 years as governor of a state with about
670,000 residents.

During her mayoral administration most of the actual work of running
this small city was turned over to an administrator. She had been
pushed to hire this administrator by party power-brokers after she had
gotten herself into some trouble over precipitous firings which had
given rise to a recall campaign.

Sarah campaigned in Wasilla as a “fiscal conservative”. During her 6
years as Mayor, she increased general government expenditures by over
33%. During those same 6 years the amount of taxes collected by the
City increased by 38%. This was during a period of low inflation
(1996-2002). She reduced progressive property taxes and increased a
regressive sales tax which taxed even food. The tax cuts that she
promoted benefited large corporate property owners way more than they
benefited residents.

The huge increases in tax revenues during her mayoral administration
weren’t enough to fund everything on her wish list though, borrowed
money was needed, too. She inherited a city with zero debt, but left it
with indebtedness of over $22 million. What did Mayor Palin encourage
the voters to borrow money for? Was it the infrastructure that she said
she supported? The sewage treatment plant that the city lacked? or a
new library? No. $1m for a park. $15m-plus for construction of a
multi-use sports complex which she rushed through to build on a piece
of property that the City didn’t even have clear title to, that was
still in litigation 7 yrs later–to the delight of the lawyers
involved! The sports complex itself is a nice addition to the
community but a huge money pit, not the profit-generator she claimed it
would be. She also supported bonds for $5.5m for road projects that
could have been done in 5-7 yrs without any borrowing.

While Mayor, City Hall was extensively remodeled and her office
redecorated more than once.

These are small numbers, but Wasilla is a very small city.

As an oil producer, the high price of oil has created a budget surplus
in Alaska. Rather than invest this surplus in technology that will
make us energy independent and increase efficiency, as Governor she
proposed distribution of this surplus to every individual in the state.

In this time of record state revenues and budget surpluses, she
recommended that the state borrow/bond for road projects, even while
she proposed distribution of surplus state revenues: spend today’s
surplus, borrow for needs.

She’s not very tolerant of divergent opinions or open to outside ideas
or compromise. As Mayor, she fought ideas that weren’t generated by
her or her staff. Ideas weren’t evaluated on their merits, but on the
basis of who proposed them.

While Sarah was Mayor of Wasilla she tried to fire our highly respected
City Librarian because the Librarian refused to consider removing from
the library some books that Sarah wanted removed. City residents
rallied to the defense of the City Librarian and against Palin’s
attempt at out-and-out censorship, so Palin backed down and withdrew
her termination letter. People who fought her attempt to oust the
Librarian are on her enemies list to this day.

Sarah complained about the “old boy’s club” when she first ran for
Mayor, so what did she bring Wasilla? A new set of “old boys”. Palin
fired most of the experienced staff she inherited. At the City and as
Governor she hired or elevated new, inexperienced, obscure people,
creating a staff totally dependent on her for their jobs and eternally
grateful and fiercely loyal–loyal to the point of abusing their power
to further her personal agenda, as she has acknowledged happened in the
case of pressuring the State’s top cop (see below).

As Mayor, Sarah fired Wasilla’s Police Chief because he “intimidated”
her, she told the press. As Governor, her recent firing of Alaska’s top
cop has the ring of familiarity about it. He served at her pleasure
and she had every legal right to fire him, but it’s pretty clear that
an important factor in her decision to fire him was because he wouldn’t
fire her sister’s ex-husband, a State Trooper. Under investigation
for abuse of power, she has had to admit that more than 2 dozen
contacts were made between her staff and family to the person that she
later fired, pressuring him to fire her ex-brother-in-law. She tried to
replace the man she fired with a man who she knew had been reprimanded
for sexual harassment; when this caused a public furor, she withdrew
her support.

She has bitten the hand of every person who extended theirs to her in
help. The City Council person who personally escorted her around town
introducing her to voters when she first ran for Wasilla City Council
became one of her first targets when she was later elected Mayor. She
abruptly fired her loyal City Administrator; even people who didn’t
like the guy were stunned by this ruthlessness.

Fear of retribution has kept all of these people from saying anything
publicly about her.

When then-Governor Murkowski was handing out political plums, Sarah got
the best, Chair of the Alaska Oil and Gas Conservation Commission: one
of the few jobs not in Juneau and one of the best paid. She had no
background in oil & gas issues. Within months of scoring this great
job which paid $122,400/yr, she was complaining in the press about the
high salary. I was told that she hated that job: the commute, the
structured hours, the work. Sarah became aware that a member of this
Commission (who was also the State Chair of the Republican Party)
engaged in unethical behavior on the job. In a gutsy move which some
undoubtedly cautioned her could be political suicide, Sarah solved all
her problems in one fell swoop: got out of the job she hated and
garnered gobs of media attention as the patron saint of ethics and as a
gutsy fighter against the “old boys’ club” when she dramatically quit,
exposing this man’s ethics violations (for which he was fined).

As Mayor, she had her hand stuck out as far as anyone for pork from
Senator Ted Stevens. Lately, she has castigated his pork-barrel
politics and publicly humiliated him. She only opposed the “bridge to
nowhere” after it became clear that it would be unwise not to.

As Governor, she gave the Legislature no direction and budget
guidelines, then made a big grandstand display of line-item vetoing
projects, calling them pork. Public outcry and further legislative
action restored most of these projects–which had been vetoed simply
because she was not aware of their importance–but with the unobservant
she had gained a reputation as “anti-pork”.

She is solidly Republican: no political maverick. The State party
leaders hate her because she has bit them in the back and humiliated
them. Other members of the party object to her self-description as a
fiscal conservative.

Around Wasilla there are people who went to high school with Sarah.
They call her “Sarah Barracuda” because of her unbridled ambition and
predatory ruthlessness. Before she became so powerful, very ugly
stories circulated around town about shenanigans she pulled to be made
point guard on the high school basketball team. When Sarah’s
mother-in-law, a highly respected member of the community and
experienced manager, ran for Mayor, Sarah refused to endorse her.

As Governor, she stepped outside of the box and put together of package
of legislation known as “AGIA” that forced the oil companies to march
to the beat of her drum.

Like most Alaskans, she favors drilling in the Arctic National Wildlife
Refuge. She has questioned if the loss of sea ice is linked to
global warming. She campaigned “as a private citizen” against a state
initiaitive that would have either a) protected salmon streams from
pollution from mines, or b) tied up in the courts all mining in the
state (depending on who you listen to). She has pushed the State’s
lawsuit against the Dept. of the Interior’s decision to list polar
bears as threatened species.

McCain is the oldest person to ever run for President; Sarah will be a
heartbeat away from being President.

There has to be literally millions of Americans who are more
knowledgeable and experienced than she.

However, there’s a lot of people who have underestimated her and are
regretting it.

CLAIM VS FACT
•“Hockey mom”: true for a few years
•“PTA mom”: true years ago when her first-born was in elementary
school, not since
•“NRA supporter”: absolutely true
•social conservative: mixed. Opposes gay marriage, BUT vetoed a bill
that would have denied benefits to employees in same-sex relationships
(said she did this because it was unconsitutional).
•pro-creationism: mixed. Supports it, BUT did nothing as Governor to
promote it.
•“Pro-life”: mixed. Knowingly gave birth to a Down’s syndrome baby
BUT declined to call a special legislative session on some pro-life
legislation
•“Experienced”: Some high schools have more students than Wasilla has
residents. Many cities have more residents than the state of Alaska.
No legislative experience other than City Council. Little hands-on
supervisory or managerial experience; needed help of a city
administrator to run town of about 5,000.
•political maverick: not at all
•gutsy: absolutely!
•open & transparent: ??? Good at keeping secrets. Not good at
explaining actions.
•has a developed philosophy of public policy: no
•”a Greenie”: no. Turned Wasilla into a wasteland of big box stores
and disconnected parking lots. Is pro-drilling off-shore and in ANWR.
•fiscal conservative: not by my definition!
•pro-infrastructure: No. Promoted a sports complex and park in a city
without a sewage treatment plant or storm drainage system. Built
streets to early 20th century standards.
•pro-tax relief: Lowered taxes for businesses, increased tax burden on
residents
•pro-small government: No. Oversaw greatest expansion of city
government in Wasilla’s history.
•pro-labor/pro-union. No. Just because her husband works union
doesn’t make her pro-labor. I have seen nothing to support any claim
that she is pro-labor/pro-union.

WHY AM I WRITING THIS?

First, I have long believed in the importance of being an informed
voter. I am a voter registrar. For 10 years I put on student voting
programs in the schools. If you google my name (Anne Kilkenny +
Alaska), you will find references to my participation in local
government, education, and PTA/parent organizations.

Secondly, I’ve always operated in the belief that “Bad things happen
when good people stay silent”. Few people know as much as I do because
few have gone to as many City Council meetings.

Third, I am just a housewife. I don’t have a job she can bump me out
of. I don’t belong to any organization that she can hurt. But, I am no
fool; she is immensely popular here, and it is likely that this will
cost me somehow in the future: that’s life.

Fourth, she has hated me since back in 1996, when I was one of the 100
or so people who rallied to support the City Librarian against Sarah’s
attempt at censorship.

Fifth, I looked around and realized that everybody else was afraid to
say anything because they were somehow vulnerable.

CAVEATS
I am not a statistician. I developed the numbers for the increase in
spending & taxation 2 years ago (when Palin was running for Governor)
from information supplied to me by the Finance Director of the City of
Wasilla, and I can’t recall exactly what I adjusted for: did I adjust
for inflation? for population increases? Right now, it is impossible
for a private person to get any info out of City Hall–they are
swamped. So I can’t verify my numbers.

You may have noticed that there are various numbers circulating for the
population of Wasilla, ranging from my “about 5,000″, up to 9,000. The
day Palin’s selection was announced a city official told me that the
current population is about 7,000. The official 2000 census count was
5,460. I have used about 5,000 because Palin was Mayor from 1996 to
2002, and the city was growing rapidly in the mid-90’s.

Anne Kilkenny
annekilkenny@hotmail.com
August 31, 2008

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Dreaming Big

September 4, 2008 · Leave a Comment

As the college football season begins, I thought I’d relay a story that I read about the famous Notre Dame Coach, Lou Holtz. In 1966 he was 28 years old and his wife was pregnant with his third child and he was the assistant coach at a small school in the South. It was then that he lost that job and was out of work. He read a book called “The Magic of Thinking Big” which encouraged people to think big, dream big. And so he did. He wrote down 107 goals that he deemed “impossible”. They included having dinner at the White House, appearing on the Tonight Show with Johnny Carson, meeting the Pope, coaching at Notre Dame, leading his team to a national championship and shooting a hole in one.

 

Lou has now achieved 81 of these goals.

 

What I love about this is that it shows the importance of dreaming big before we even know how to accomplish it. The “how” is not important in dreaming. If you focus on the “how” all of the time, you’ll get stuck and held back on ever trying. You’ve defeated yourself before you’ve even tried. The more attached you are to the reasons something will never happen, the less likely it will happen.

 

So, what are your “impossible” goals? Will you make a list of 50 of them this week? I will do the same and I will post those “impossible” goals on my blog by this Friday.  Check back in to see what I’ve written and I would love for you to post yours there as well under the “comments” section of the blog.

 

“If you’re bored with life – you don’t get up every morning with a burning desire to do things – you don’t have enough goals.”
Lou Holtz

 

 

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You Ain’t Seen Nothing Yet

September 2, 2008 · Leave a Comment

For some reason I woke up this morning with the song, “You Ain’t Seen Nothin Yet” playing in my head. Do you know that song? The one that says, “Here’s something that you never gonna forget. B-B-B-Baby, you just ain’t seen nothin’ yet.” Well at first I was annoyed because I couldn’t get it out of my head. But then the more I thought about it, I thought what better song is there to get you pumped up for a new week? And so I decided that was my new theme song. I think that the actual song is about love and relationships but I am taking it as inspiration for myself and all that I have yet to achieve. It’s about taking it to the next level. I picture driving a fast boat on a lake that I’ve been just cruisin’ in and now I’m about to put it into high gear as I say, “You Ain’t Seen Nothing Yet”.

I hope you’ll all rise to the challenge and race me. B-B-B-Baby.

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